Unreasonable to expect financial support

A family breakdown is when the relationship between the young person and their parent:

• no longer exists or
• has deteriorated to the point that it would be unreasonable for them to expect financial support

Family relationships can deteriorate for many reasons. For example, when a young person and their parent have differing views that create tension or conflict. This could include, but is not limited to, the following:

• core values
• cultural or religious beliefs
• personal or gender identity
• life choices
• personal relationships

When a relationship has broken down to the point that expecting financial support is unreasonable, there will often be very little or no contact between the young person and their parent. Generally, the parent will not be providing any financial support, and they may not be willing to. The young person may feel that expecting financial support from their parent would be harmful for their wellbeing.

Note a family breakdown does not exist just because a parent does not want to provide financial support or because a young person does not want to be supported by their parent.

Example 1

Lien has 2 natural parents. When she was 5 years old, her father left and cut off all contact with Lien and her mother. She hasn't had any contact with her father since.

It is not reasonable for Lien to expect financial support from her father because she has not had a relationship with him since she was 5 years old.

Example 2

Alex has had a serious disagreement with their parents about Alex's gender identity. This has been an ongoing issue, and their relationship has steadily deteriorated over the last few years. Alex's parents will not accept Alex's identity because it goes against their values and beliefs. Six months ago, they asked Alex to move out of their home and told Alex they do not want a relationship with them. There has been no contact between Alex and their parents since.

It is not reasonable for Alex to expect financial support from their parents because of the breakdown in their relationship.

Example 3

Iosefa has 2 natural parents who are married and live in Taupo. Iosefa is in a band and moved to Dunedin last year to pursue his music career. Iosefa keeps in touch with his parents, who are very supportive of him. Iosefa considers himself independent and does not want to accept financial support from his parents.

It is reasonable for Iosefa to expect financial support from his parents. Iosefa has a good relationship with them, and they are willing to support him.

Example 4

Riley has 2 natural parents who are separated. She does not live with either of her parents. Riley is very close with her mother and has a good relationship with her father. Riley's mother said she will support her if she does not qualify for a benefit, but her father said he will not as he does not think it is his responsibility.

It is reasonable for Riley to expect financial support from her father. There is no reason he cannot support her, and there is no safety concern between Riley and her father.